To the Young Wife –
Getting married young isn’t a walk in the park. You are both still “discovering yourselves” and then you throw in marriage to try to navigate as well. Some people think that you are throwing away the best years of your life or that you haven’t dated enough people. Getting married later in life could be smarter in the sense of you both being more mature, both have better jobs and you both could have less debt. But then, think about all that you would have missed out on.
I fully support your decision in getting married young. I got married young. I was only 20 years old when I said “I do” and my husband was 23. We didn’t need to date other people to know that we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. We didn’t need to have big paying jobs to make ends meet.
I look back on the past 3 1/2 years of marriage and all that we have done together. None of it would have happened if we waited until we were more “mature,” whatever that means. I believe that getting married young, helped us to mature faster and grow together. If I didn’t agree to the marriage proposal or say “I do,” I wouldn’t be where I am now and I wouldn’t have a little boy calling me “mom.”
So, if you are a young wife or a young fiance getting married, I want you to remember a few things.
1. It’s your decision and no one else’s. Don’t let other people’s opinions on marriage affect your marriage. The only person who you should listen to aside from you husband is God.
2. Enjoy this time of your life. If you think back on life, it goes by really fast. Enjoy the time you get to spend with your husband. So many people say “if only I met you sooner” or “I wish I could have loved you longer.” Well guess what? You get the opportunity to love your husband longer.
3. Trust what God is doing in your marriage. He brought the two of you together. He knows what is in store for you marriage. Believe me, if you weren’t meant to be married right now, you wouldn’t be.
I do not regret marrying my husband. We have created so many memories and have built a great foundation for out life together. It may have been “easier” to have waited for things to fall in place, but we wouldn’t be where we are now. You are writing a beautiful story with your husband. You are going on some amazing adventures together and everything is worth it.
“For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’” —Jeremiah 29:11
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