When your child starts throwing a temper tantrum, whether in the middle of the supermarket or in your living room, you can get very flustered. You wonder how you’re going to ever get them to stop. As mothers, we need to be in control of the situation which means stopping a temper tantrum right in its tracks. I’ve found things in my experience of working in child care that have really helped and as my child is starting the process of learning how to throw a temper tantrum, it’s time to get the tricks out. But it would be selfish of me to keep these all to myself, so I thought I would share them with you in hopes that they will work for you.
Get Down on Their Level. Don’t talk to your child from a standing position, squat down to meet them. You don’t want to be 3 feet taller than your children when you are talking to them. Bend down. It will make your child less intimidated by you and they won’t have to strain their neck to see you. Most parents yell “Look at me when I’m talking to you.” But in reality your child can’t comfortably.
Make Eye Contact. It’s a respect thing. When you are talking to another adult, you look them in the eyes. Treat your children the same. When you are talking to them about their behavior, treat them with respect.
Get Serious. I don’t mean yelling at your child. Just simply talk with a stern voice to let them know you are in charge. It’s not yelling, it’s not raising your voice. It’s simply have a serious tone. Tone of voice says everything.
Give Them Two Options. Your end goal is for them to stop the tantrum but sometimes it’s hard for your children to calm down. Option 1 would be to calm down right now, take a few deep breaths and stop crying. Option 2 would be to go sit somewhere until they can get their emotions under control.
Make sure that once you are done with these steps and your child has calmed down to discuss why they threw the tantrum and what they could have done instead. Let them know their behavior was unacceptable and let them know ways they could express their emotions without it turning into a tantrum.